{"id":34,"date":"2012-11-24T05:44:01","date_gmt":"2012-11-24T13:44:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nocontest.ca\/?p=34"},"modified":"2021-05-30T03:50:29","modified_gmt":"2021-05-30T03:50:29","slug":"on-being-forgiven-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nocontest.ca\/index.php\/2012\/11\/24\/on-being-forgiven-2\/","title":{"rendered":"On Being Forgiven"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I began training in the martial arts when I was 17. I\u2019d read George Leonard\u2019s book The Ultimate Athlete<\/em> a year or two prior and had fallen in love with a martial art called aikido. It was offered at my university by Shihan Bowen, who taught both aikido and karate.<\/p>\n

One day in class he demonstrates the difference between the arts.<\/p>\n

\u201cLet\u2019s say I have a student who wants to cause trouble.\u201d He motions to his assistant to come at him with a punch, and demonstrates disabling him with an arm break but doesn\u2019t follow through. \u201cIf I use karate to stop him, I break his arm, and I am not forgiven.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBut if I use aikido to stop him,\u201d he says, motioning again to his assistant, who throws the punch and is wheeled around and quickly pinned to the floor, \u201cI don\u2019t break his arm, and I am forgiven.\u201d<\/p>\n

When faced with a communication that you find threatening — a complaint or a conflict — do you strike back, or do you respond in such a way that you will be forgiven?<\/p>\n

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